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Bethany Gwynne's avatar

This is so beautiful and such a breath of fresh air - growing old is a privilege. Love your writing so much, immediate subscribe💘💐

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Amani Hope's avatar

Wow thank you Bethany, and well said I couldn't agree more, this is a privilege 🖤

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Annie B.'s avatar

Yes yes yes!! I want to hear more from other women who are embracing the changes and writing about this. The daily slog of anti aging that we are bombarded with needs to be drowned out by other voices and muses. Thank you for this! I have it saved to revisit and draw inspiration from.

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Amani Hope's avatar

good point! and thank you Annie

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rojeen rahman's avatar

yes! it's such a gift to age!

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zee's avatar

im soon to be 24 and have taken to fretting about my smile lines but i forgot how much i look forward to being old thank you for the beautiful reminder

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keiyi.'s avatar

I’ve been watching so many video essays about the Instagram face, the Botox pandemic, Korean anti aging skincare and all that…thank you for the reminder that we should wear our experience on our skin instead of lust after impossibly unmarked bodies!

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aja marie's avatar

lovely

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Mohika Mudgal's avatar

grey is powerful!!! I love my youth and I already know I'm going to love old-age. I'm going to have long silver hair like my grandmom's and I'm going to bubble braid it. I loved your post so much!

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Rohit Dashora's avatar

Such beautiful portrayal of ageing. This post reminds me of my grandmother. She was a strong woman full of life and energy.

Also me and my siblings used to lovingly call her 'Amani' in Hindi language. Although the word has no particular meaning, and I don't have any recollection as to why we used to call her by this name, as it is not a hindi language term for Grandma.

But seeing your name and this post made me remember her.

Thank you ❤️

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wenyi xue's avatar

i feel sometimes i have this bizarre fear of getting old (likely due to society always painting it so negatively) and i think i really needed this essay. thank you for writing! <3

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Hajee Sun's avatar

I like the way you describe getting older. I really enjoy getting older. I want to embrace aging with time, to feel the marks it leaves on my body and soul, and the changes it brings.

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Kathleen's avatar

‘Why should I fear time, when I’m desperate for more of it..’ GIRLLL YOU ARE PREACHING TO ME THIS MORNING!!!!! All of this was so beautifully put together

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Cha's avatar

Oooft YES. Ageing is such a privilege, we need to embrace it more.

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Sophie's avatar

A beautiful take as always 🧡

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Scarlet Ibis James's avatar

Fabulous story 🎈

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Scarlet Ibis James's avatar

Love the line: my laugh lines are permanent.

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Jolie Doggett's avatar

Omg I love this ❤️ Especially this line: "Why hadn’t I been preparing for my growth better? Or rather, why do I doubt I can handle it?"

I think society social media and even sometimes our mothers/matriarchs don't properly prepare us. Everything around us discourages us from aging. But your piece is a reminder that being an Auntie or old lady is a privilege! And I wanna be so blessed.

Beautiful writing ❤️

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Amani Hope's avatar

Thank you for your comment Jolie, exactly

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